Five Ways to Talk With Anyone
Being alone at an event or location is vibe killing. You don’t want to be alone, but you also don’t know how to get started. Then you get in your head and before long you call it quits.
But if you think about it, the only thing standing in our way is an excuse, a few words…
Here it is.
1. The Excuse
If you ever find yourself alone at an event and loosing your vibe over it. Don’t fret.
You just need an excuse.
First, Just Stop. and Breathe.
You got this.
Now Look for a group or individual you want to talk to and use one of these forms of excuses.
Ask for Help:
Ask them for some help. Something small. an opinion even, Anything relating to the event or area.
Compliment them:
“Hey, sorry to interrupt, but I really like your___. “ If you’re bold enough.
The Introduction:
Hey, I'm _____ . Do this one with context.
Point out something:
“Guess the bus is late again.” Anything obvious and in context.
Keep in mind, it doesn’t really matter what the excuse is. Its just a foot in the door.
Also be genuine, and use these with context.
If you are going to ask for help, actually ask for something that will help you in any way.
If you are going to Compliment them, mean it and leave the body stuff.
You get the point…
2. Ask open ended questions
Now that you’re in the door. Don’t stop, Keep it going. These types of questions will help you find more leads from which to continue the conversation. Such as mutual interests, dislikes, etc..
These are questions that cant be answered with a simple yes or no. They also help give you more leads from where to continue the conversation.
Here are some types of open ended questions:
Tell me more…
What else…
When did that happen…
What is…
How did you…
Etc…
The only type of questions you should avoid are why questions. These tend to lead people to become defensive rather than open.
You don’t want that.
3. Mirroring
People tend to feel more comfortable, with people who are like them. Especially in social events.
So showing them that you are like them by acting and talking like them is crucial.
Mirroring is 90% non verbal and 10% verbal.
Copy their posture, their tone, their enthusiasm, their movements, expressions, etc.
But do it slightly. Don’t go overboard. Remember its all subconscious work.
You want their brain to notice with out them noticing.
Be natural. Be organic.
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4. Open Mind
Now look, lets be honest.
All conversations eventually wont be about topics you enjoy or agree with.
So what.
Let them pan out, ask opened questions, see where they go.
If you don’t agree with something, don’t hide it, say it. But don’t say it in a non combatant, or defensive way.
Keep the conversation going. See what others have got to say.
Don’t just shut down. Unless you want to kill the conversation.
5. Place and Time
Take into account the place and time of the conversation.
You don’t want to come off as creepy or scary because you chose to start a conversation at lonely dark bus stop at night.
What I mean is:
really take into account the setting and time of the location.
To avoid any unwanted or unintended consequences.
You guys got this! Best of luck!
